This paper is a call to study how we attune differently to the care technologies(tech) we live with as a means to design them better. Care techfiddles with our most intimate relations and vulnerabilities. People havedifferent experiences, dreams, desires, and action potentials, and if theycannot attune to a care tech, the care tech will not work as intended oreven cause pathogenic vulnerability. The first part of the paper developsthis argument, while the second part analyses three design cases andsketches an approach of deeply situated design as a potential answer tothe call.